When starting something new, we often get a little anxious and scared to actually go through with it. We like to stay in our comfort zones, as it is in fact comfortable. So when we get some aspiration to do something bigger than normal, we come up with all sorts of excuses or reasons why we shouldn’t do things. I’ll be the first to admit this has always been an issue of mine. I don’t have time, I don’t have this or that. When in all reality, I just didn’t WANT to. I didn’t feel comfortable putting myself out there.
Do you ever find yourself thinking you might look stupid? People, or maybe even someone specific might think you are crazy or stupid for doing something. You don’t have the tools or equipment to do something? Yeah, I’ve been there and done that. I might even argue about it with you to prove to myself that I’m right. (anyone with me?)
I’ve told myself that people keep telling me I can’t do something. When in fact, they didn’t say anything of the sort. Honestly, those people didn’t say anything. Did they ever look at me and say, “you can do it?” No. But only in my head did I tell myself that they blatantly tell me I couldn’t. I’ve told myself that I don’t have a place to make a video so that people can actually see me. I may not have the setting I want, but I sure have a phone that will record and a way to upload to a platform. I’ve told myself all these people don’t care what I have to say. Some people don’t, but there are people who care about what I have to say and benefit from hearing it.
Hard truth, if you project a lot like I do, you’ll have to fight yourself often to get past those excuses and think a little outside the box. You’ll have to learn that living outside of your comfort zone is actually pretty thrilling when you let go of what those people think.
Step 1: realize that its actually you getting in your own way.
step 2: Figure out where your thoughts are stemming from and if they are something you are making up
step 3: come up with a plan (a simple one) to shift your mindset so when you say “I can’t”, you add…I can’t yet, but what could I do to change that.
*KEY: this isn’t hard, and it gets easier the more conscious you are of it. It does take effort to make this shift. ITS WORTH IT