Where do I even begin? It seems like I see the phrase “self doubt” and I just want to look away. No way, none of that here! I all reality, this has been a large struggle of mine. It seems like a society breeds it into everybody in some way or another. “you’re not allowed to do this”, “you’ll never succeed like this”, “your doing this wrong.” Any of these sound familiar to anyone else? There is always the ones we tell ourselves, “There’s no way I can do this”, “I can’t do that.” The one I hear people talk about the most, “i’m not good enough for that.”
So why can’t we? Why not take all of those phrases and throw them out the window (and our personal vocabulary). Those are all things we tell ourselves, and yes, we’re told by other people. Myself included. More recently, I’ve assigned those phrases a catagory and put into a small folder that I’ll hopefully be able to shred one day labeled LIMITING BELIEFS!!!
As I’ve been working to build a brand for myself, I’ve had to shove all those out of my head a lot. I’ve gotten much better at catching them quick. And soon enough it will all be gone!!!! I wish. Lots of people are very confident and very good at hiding it. I would bet they get do deal with it too, they just don’t ever talk about it.
Its hard. Nobody wants to talk about it or deal with it because it is really hard. If I’ve heard it enough, if its that hard its probably worth doing. Its definitely not the easy way out, but working your way through that and developing those tools are very worth it to have so that when it creeps in, you can deal with it in a constructive way instead of going down that hole that gets deep and dark quick.
Here are some of the things i’ve learned to use:
- Nobody can make you believe anything. You choose to believe what you want. That doesn’t mean people won’t say things to you that hurt or are harsh, but you can choose to forget them.
- If YOU want something bad enough, YOU can make it happen. It won’t be easy in any way, but you can do it. The key point here being that YOU have to make it happen.
- Find your WHY. No matter what you are trying to do. You won’t make things happen if you don’t have something to pull you back if its not strong enough.
- Your belief in yourself. Everyone can believe in you, but if YOU don’t believe in yourself, whatever you want isn’t going to happen.
Notice my theme? Getting rid of self doubt. Everyone has a different way of doing it but if you can figure out the right way for you, your life could change drastically.